Happy Monday, we hope your last 2 weeks have been great. They have been super busy here with Samara's move and juggling a bunch of projects, but it's all good. Today, for our #MindfulnessMonday we want to talk about our role in how we let others treat us.
Can any of us think of a friend who always cancels or blows us off or is just all around flaky all the time? You know that friend who you have plans with, but you are never confident that those plans will actually materialize until they actually do? Does that bug you? If it doesn't then, great, your relationship is working just fine. But, if it does, have you ever said anything? Have you ever told him/her how it makes you feel when they act like that? If the answer is no, a) you're not alone, but b) you have to take some accountability in this situation because ultimately this friend is treating you in a way that you allow them to.
We all do this. We all accept other people's behaviour as their own, but when it's in relation to us, we have some responsibility in it too. As little kids we know this. We know that we can get away with certain things with our dads, that we would never even try to pull with our moms. Why? Because we know, mom would never stand for it. Often, parents make it very clear to children what is and what is not acceptable behaviour. We are expected to follow these rules as kids, but then as adults we forget to set these same rules for ourselves and our social and intimate interactions.
So, before we can turn the table on someone else and say, "you should treat me better. you should be more considerate of my feelings", maybe we have to look at ourselves and think, "what do I want out of this relationship? What is my standard for healthy interaction with different people?" And once we have those answers, we need to put it into action. We need to talk to our friends or partners and say, "this is OK for me, this is not. This is what I need from you. This is what I will tolerate, this is what I will not". Only once we have taken accountability for how people treat us can we begin to really understand our relationships and assess whether they are positive or negative forces in our lives.
We know this can sound like a scary thing to do, but it's important to look inward and understand our needs. Only then can we start to fulfill those of others in a healthy way.
Have an amazing week everyone. Be kind and honest with yourselves.
Happy Monday, how was your week? We hope it was great. Our week over here was definitely eventful, as our very own Samara moved to San Francisco! We are so excited for this journey ahead of her and so happy for her for fulfilling the dream she has had to live in California for years.
So, in the spirit of this new adventure, today's #MindfulnessMonday post if inspired by this quote by Zig Ziglar: "We cannot start over but we can begin now and make a new ending". We love this quote because it is all about progress, growth and taking ownership of our own destiny. Our pasts will always be our pasts and we should value them and embrace all that we learnt in all of our experiences. And then when we decide to make a change, to dive in and create the life we desire. Of course, this is not simple, but it's possible. What was will always be, but what comes next, is ours for the making.
This is true in major life decisions, as well as on our mats. Let's say we start a class and we are overwhelmed by our day and our obligations and deadlines and our mind is full of chatter and we're not breathing and we are just going through the motions. If we are in a public class, we can't stop 20 minutes in and say, "hey, sorry, can we start over? I wasn't focused". But, we can stop ourselves, take a few moments to breathe and set an intention and move through our practice more mindfully. And in the end of it, we can notice that we had a pretty solid practice after all. So, just because we couldn't start over completely, it doesn't mean we couldn't take a pause, begin again and change the outcome.
So whether it's in your practice, in your day or in your whole life, remember that new beginnings are always possible and it's in our power to seize them.
Have a great week everyone.
Happy Monday and if you are Canadian - Happy Thanksgiving!
For today's #MindfulnessMonday, we want to talk about holding space. As yoga teachers, this is a vital part of what we do - we create and hold space for our students. What that means is that we create an environment for expression and exploration without any commentary or judgement. We create a space for everyone just to be.
Of course, this is something that is important in a yoga class, but this is also something that is important in our everyday relationships. How often do we have conversations with our friends or family and they are sharing something with us and we feel the need to interject and give our opinion or perspective? I imagine it's pretty often right? And that's not bad. Sometimes our people want our advice, they want our opinion or our response. But other times, maybe they just want us to listen. They just want to put something out into the universe and have it be heard without judgement, opinion, emotion etc.
This week, we are going to try to be more mindful of our interactions with our people and try to hold space for everyone to BE. We encourage you to do the same.
Have a wonderful week,
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.