So I recently came back from a trip to NYC to visit friends, and it got me thinking.
Am I where I am supposed to be?
Were the choices that I made the right ones?
Does life really work out the way you think it will?
And the truth is, I don’t really have the answers. I had dinner with a bunch of old friends, and as I heard them speak about their lives, the ups and the downs, the wins and the losses, I was touched to be surrounded by friends who echoed my same concern - are we doing this thing called life right?
And what does doing life ‘right’ even mean?
As I looked around the table, I realized that we were all in different places in our lives. Some friends were single, some married, others with kids. Some in jobs they love and building businesses, others unemployed, some just working to pay the bills. In general, we all had some levels of happiness in some areas, and in other areas were still trying to figure it out.
And as I near another trip around the sun, (I turn 33 on Sunday) I start to get more and more used to the idea of impermanence. The idea that nothing is forever, and that the only thing constant in our lives is change. So, the more present we can be with that which is right in front of us - the happier our existence will be.
As a wellness expert, I have the privilege of coaching clients on a daily basis, and have been able to gain a lot of insight into how the mind works. This ‘fly on the wall’ perspective has led me to draw many conclusions about our thoughts, emotions and how we generally operate, helping me to understand how to optimize everyday life and heal our wounds.
The main conclusion that I reached is that we are a lot more similar than we are different. We all have dreams and hopes. We all compare ourselves to others at times. We all suffer. We all thrive.
So as you flow through life and ask yourself the question, am I doing this right? If you follow the list below, the answer is yes.
Be gentle with yourself. - remember yourself as a child. The innocence, the rawness, the vulnerability. How would you treat him or her? Certainly with kindness. So why are you being so hard on yourself? Next time you trip up remember your young face because it is still inside of you.
This too shall pass. - remember that life is about ebbs and flows, ups and downs, triumphs and sorrows. We can’t have the good without the bad, so learn to embrace the tough times too. There is always something to learn.
Set an intention - a great way to know whether or not you are on the right path is to set an intention. This will help you create a roadmap for where you want to go, and you can continually check in with yourself. My girlfriends and I like to do this every new moon (every month) and write it in down in journals. This way we are able to check on where we followed through, and what we still need to put some work towards.