How do you measure success?
Is it by the number in your bank account, the awards or accolades you have received, the size of your house or the type of car you drive?
These things can be viewed as the ‘standard’ trappings of success, but what does having all of that do for you, really?
Does it make you feel more fulfilled, loved and connected? Does it bring you happiness?
In most instances, the answer to this question is no.
5 years ago, I looked like I had it all. I was working for a family business in fashion, being groomed to take over the company and had a coveted job. I got to travel to exotic places and attend fancy dinners and trade shows. I even got a clothing allowance.
People would tell me all the time how lucky I was, how great I was at what I was doing and what an incredible opportunity I had laid out in front of me.
There was one problem: I was completely miserable.
Instead of listening to my heart, I stayed stuck in what I thought I ‘should’ be doing, on what the outside world deemed as ‘successful.' This inevitably ended up making me sick. I got strep throat 3 times in one year, and if that wasn’t enough of a wakeup call, I broke my foot boarding a flight home from a sales meeting in Brazil.
The reason I am telling you this, is because if you are stuck in something that doesn’t feel quite right to you, you're not alone. Although it may be something that other people want, that does not mean it has to be what you want.
Here is the good news: you can change it! Life is too long to stay stuck doing something daily that you don’t love. Yes, change can be scary but it is ALWAYS worth it in the end.
Today, I measure success by the impact I am making on the world, time spent with friends and family and being in nature. This feels a lot more aligned with my belief system but it took some deprograming to get there.
So, how do you measure success?
If you know you want to make a change but you don’t know where to start (which is totally normal) - apply for a clarity call with me to get you on the right track.
Imagine what your life will look like in a year from now, if you start to make a small change today.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.