So thanksgiving week is upon us, which can be exciting for some and can be dreadful for others.
In my family, Thanksgiving was never really something that we celebrated. Being in the US, it seems to be something that everybody partakes in and this year we will all be in San Francisco (where my brother lives) to celebrate.
I am looking forward to the holiday since it is all about giving thanks, being grateful for what you have and spending time with family.
Holidays can also be challenging as they can bring up feelings of loneliness, old wounding and comparison. This is not necessarily a bad thing...when we confront things that trigger us, we are able to move through them instead of continue to hold onto them.
So as you go into this holiday season, look at it as an opportunity to grow and learn, and to release some of things that may have been holding you back this year.
Some useful tips to maximize your holiday.Put your phone away - I know, I know it can feel like a 5th limb sometimes but it is robbing you of being present and experiencing things around you. Don't zone out on your phone while at the dinner table with your family. Listen to what they have to say and make eye contact when someone is speaking. Encourage everyone to put their phones away and see how much more the engagement and laughter increases.
Talk about things that matter - if you are anything like me, your family lives in different places and we don't all get to be around each other that often. So when we are, I look at it as an opportunity to really catch up. Take this opportunity to ask the people you love about how they are doing, what they may be struggling with and what goals they need support on reaching.
Avoid negative topics - we can probably all agree on the fact that there are a lot of negative things happening in the world. There are also a lot of positive things happening too. Avoid topics that will put you and your loved ones in a bad mood such as politics, natural disasters and gossip. Instead of focusing on the problem, see if you can band together and come up with a solution.
Be mindful with this time as it only comes once a year! If holidays bring up negative emotions - that is okay too. You can change them by starting to create new memories.
Happy Happy to you and yours.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.