So we are well into the month of January - and your intentions for the new year may seem like a distant memory.
Or you may be doing Dry January and feeling GREAT - wondering how long you can go without alcohol in your system.
Or like me, you maybe taking the whole month to reflect on what you want to create for the year, listening and pausing and acting from a place of stillness as opposed to being rushed to have it all figured out.
As I think about the new year and the direction I want to take, I am not only reflecting on moving forward but also looking at how far I have come. This is a practice I coach my clients on regularly; call it reflection, gratitude or something else, it is the ability to celebrate your wins, recognize your strengths and move forward from a place of power.
In 2020, my business is slightly changing it’s focus as I start to incorporate more leadership development work and working directly with companies, offering leadership training, exec coaching and corporate offsites.
Don’t worry, I will still be offering the same personal insights, mindfulness tips and life coaching but I will also be touching on how powerful these tools can be when applied to business.
It’s a funny process to build your vision and I am certainly not immune to the rollercoaster ride that plagues many entrepreneurs. Practically to prepare for this addition, I completed a 9 month training program through SIYLI - the leadership development program that started at Google, and have started reaching out to my network to see who can benefit from these services. Emotionally, the shift was not linear, as it never is. It has been through my own personal work of believing that I could do it that is making this vision come to life.
I had to look inward to ignore the deeply ingrained story I tell myself that I am not enough. I know you can relate.
But the truth is, I AM ENOUGH. I am smart enough, good enough, innovative enough, powerful enough and have a TON to offer.
So as Bill Campbell, dubbed the Trillion Dollar Coach says, “The top priority of any manager is the well-being and success of her people”, I know what he means. Because I am in the people business, whether that is working one on one with person, leading a team or dealing with my own inner critic, and there is always work to be done.
Manifesting takes time.
I have had a lot of you ask me about manifesting lately. Maybe because it is January of the new year and you want to create a SHIFT. Attract new things into your life and take bold action.
The online definition of manifesting is: display or show (a quality or feeling) by one's acts or appearance; demonstrate.
Broken down, to me, this means you have to get clear on what you want to attract and then embody the feeling, the knowing that it is possible.
What do I mean by this? Well I can share a story through my lens about the power of manifesting.
My whole life I wanted to live in LA. I used to come visit as a little girl, because both of my dad’s brothers lived here. I started by coming out with my parents and as soon as I was old enough, I would come out by myself or with friends. I remember on my first trip to LA alone at 16 years, I bought a candle on Venice beach and thought to myself, one day I am going to live here.
Cut to 15 years later, I am living in Toronto, rooted in my work and community, newly purchased a condo, building a business and content with my life. The whispers of California were still there but I didn’t really know how I could act on them. All the doubt came up; am I too old, how will I make friends, how will I get a proper visa to work and on and on and on. For the full story check out here.
Spoiler alert; I ended up taking the plunge even though rationally it did not make sense. It wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen in the timeline that I originally thought but the vision I held of myself since I was a little girl came true. I have never been happier and I am so grateful for the life that I intentionally created for myself.
Morale of the story. Get clear on what you want. Don’t be afraid to fail. Let go of your timelines. Take bold action.
So, what’s something you are currently manifesting?
As we embark on this new year (and new decade), it feels like anything is possible, am I right?
But why is that? Why do we need a media push in order to believe that we are capable of reaching our highest potential? Why do we need the world, society or other people outside of ourselves to remind us of our power?
Complacency is real and I do understand the value of segmenting time into 365 days however the idea that we have to do better, feel better and act better on January 1st is something that I believe sets you up for failure.
What if you took an alternate approach?
What if you looked at goal setting not as a destination but rather as a vehicle for something greater, like happiness, fulfillment and inner peace.
Something I advise my clients on regularly as the #1 productivity hack is breaking things down. This means removing obstacles in order to see clearly rather than adding to your already full plate.
Instead of trying to losing 10 lbs, change jobs, start your side hustle, move AND learn a new language I suggest breaking your year down into quarters and asking yourself what you can realistically achieve by the end of Q1. It could be small progress in each category or a big move in one, breaking it down will make it feel less overwhelming and more actionable.
Studies show that when we commit to less we actually end up doing more because we come from the perspective that we are enough rather than not good enough.
So, where can you do less to achieve more this year?
I am committed to doing the same - although you have been used to seeing weekly content from me for a while, we are thinking about slowing things down in order to provide you more quality content less frequently. We are still working out the details so stay tuned!
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.