Feeling fresh after returning from Reset Week in Costa Rica, I had the opportunity to lead some incredible people on a journey back to their hearts.
In Pavones, we go completely off the grid, are immersed in nature, eat healthy delicious food, do daily yoga and meditation and gain clarity on some of life’s issues.
A conversation I had with a few of the participants started with; “I am looking for my other half.”
Stop right there, I said. “If you are looking for someone to complete you, you must stop right there. There is absolutely no one that can complete you except yourself. The work is to complete yourself first and then find someone else who is whole too. That is what makes a healthy relationship.”
Neuroscience agrees; research shows that intense romantic love and sexual attraction activates the portion of the brain that releases dopamine and creates pleasure, but only longer-term love causes the release of oxytocin which creates emotional bonding and holds inherent value in the brain.
If long-lasting love is what you are looking for, I promise it is out there for you.
You just have to learn how to complete yourself first.
If you are ready for love, want to attract in a conscious partner, own your singleness and love yourself join my Love and Relationship program starting March 4th. Earlybird ends Feb 26th and spots are limited!
As I sit here this morning in Costa Rica, writing this to you, I hear the birds chirping, the waves crashing and have the view of a beautiful lush jungle.
Every year I come back to this magical place and it gets me into a quiet little lull. It is a time to give to all the wonderful people who are attending this retreat and it is also a time to receive from Mother Nature’s bounty.
It’s uncanny what happens when you slow down and listen. When you quiet the noise in your head and start to listen to your heart. When you are unencumbered by to-do lists or comparisons or all the ‘shoulds’ life has you thinking are important. There is a sense of being alive that only stillness can encompass and it is absolutely wonderful.
Depending on where you are at on your personal growth journey - stillness can leave you feeling uncomfortable, anxious or even burdensome. That’s okay too. It just means that you are in a season of processing and you have some work to do.
Wherever you are at in your heart, know that if the results you are seeking are not the results you are getting, you can always choose again. If it is love you are seeking, be as lovable as you can to everyone you meet. If it is abundance you are seeking, help those around you find abundance. The more you embody what you want, the more it will flow to you naturally.
Oh and the hardest part? TRUST THE PROCESS. Years ago when I started on my wellness journey, I dreamed of hosting retreats for people wanting to make an impact on the world, better themselves and those around them and for it to feel fun and easy. Today, after many years of trying and I can say I have achieved this.
So, with that, I am sending you love from my porch with encouragement to keep trying, keep trusting and never give up.
I know you are like me and plan to do 1 million things every single day. And then when you only get half of those things done, you feel like somehow you failed. Am I right?
I get it. You have a busy life and a lot of to-dos but it often feel like you are spinning in circles. Questions pop up like, am I doing the right thing? Is this what I should be focusing on? Will I get a lot out of this?
When you are going really fast and consistently multi-tasking it is hard to find clarity.
But, by honing your focus to one thing at a time, this will allow you to be more productive and get more done throughout your day. Having 10 tabs open in your mind is similar to having 10 tabs open on your computer - too many at a time can get confusing, overwhelming and slow down the processing.
By practicing mindfulness at work, you will have an easier time executing your tasks and enjoy the process.
A mindfulness tool that can be very helpful before an important meeting and can be done in your head or out loud with your team/kids/coworkers.
Find a comfortable seat:
Repeat anytime throughout the day you feel as though you need to get focused.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.