We are each gifted with an incredible superpower. Its something that is always with us no matter where we go and if honed, has the power to transform our life is we are willing to listen.
Our intuition is that gut response, that tug tug on our heart and the feeling when you just know. Our intuition comes before the fears, doubts and limiting thoughts... it is our soul trying to make contact and guide the way.
A few things I've learned about intuition along my journey is that once you see, you can't unsee, meaning when your intuition sends you an answer to a question it will go from a whisper to a scream if you if you don't take action on the message.
When I was younger, I always dreamed about living in LA. I loved the vibe, the warmth, the nature and the people. Flash forward to my adult life living in Toronto where everything in my life was going well but I still had a nagging feeling - "don't forget about your LA dream." It didn't make much sense to move. I had a ton of friends and family, a thriving business and owned my condo and was not American, but still I heard that voice. So I listened.
It took a lot of work to move past the fear and doubts I had about moving to another country, far from friends and family to run my business in a place where I had to rebuild my community from scratch. After taking the leap, it was like the little voice inside my head let out a great big ahhhhh and I am armed with the knowledge that when you listen to your intuition, anything is possible.
Our intuitive gifts are not just available to some, we all have the ability to access this power, however you must learn how to get quiet enough to listen. It can take time to develop the discernment between our fear and our intuition, and to know which internal voice to listen to because it isn't always the rational one.
What to lead with your intuition but aren't sure how to start? I've got you covered.
Harness your Superpower
1. Tune in: Our intuition is often the loudest when we get quiet. Build time into your schedule where you are truly in silence. Turn off your music, put your phone on airplane mode, remove yourself from the distractions of Netflix or even a book and just sit with yourself. The longer you sit the more your mind might drive you crazy, but once it settles, what's left behind is the soft quiet voice of your soul.
2. Write it out: Often our intuition comes out through automatic writing. I practice this by journaling out my thoughts first thing in the morning as a free flow of whatever comes through. If you're searching for an answer to a question or guidance on a decision, try this tip. Write out the specific question or situation you want guidance on as the last thing you do before you close your eyes and hit the pillow. When you wake up in the morning, before turning on your phone, brushing your teeth or even getting out of bed, grab your journal and write down whatever comes up. This is the voice of your intuition, before you have had the chance to fill your mind with the noise of the day. Chances are what you're seeking will come through on the page of your automatic writing.
3. Feel: We have 85 billion neurons in our minds, 100 million in the gut and 40, 000 in our hearts. We fall into the pattern of only listening to our minds when there are other centers in the body to inform us of answers. Feel into what the body has to say. An example is a feeling in your gut as a warning when something is off or an openness in your heart when something feels in alignment. When you go about your life, notice how things feel in your body as opposed to how you mightthinkabout then in your mind.
Last week we talked all about control and what we actuallyhave control over in our lives (instead of perceived control). If you missed it or want a refreshed read , you can check out the full post.
Today let's explore the flip side of control, the concept of surrender.
The most popular book on the subject is Michael Singer's The Surrender Experiment, which is his own personal story experimenting with practicing surrender. He decides to no longer let his personal fears and desires dictate his life and decides to surrender to what life had in store for him. This radical decision lead him to both challenges and successes, all the while on a journey of living life on his terms.
Surrendering into the flow of life is something I've worked hard on over my years of being an entrepreneur and despite what it seems, still continue to work on. Surrender is not something that came naturally to me, being a perfectionist with an A-type personality. I've had to learn where to soften into what is, to let go of the control that I thought that I had and to adapt to situations as they change.
It is NOT easy and will always be a practice but it is SO WORTH IT.
Here are some tips I've collected on the way and found super helpful.
Tips for Surrendering
1. Life is happening FOR us not TO us: This simple change in perspective has allowed me to surrender into nearly any situation that comes my way, knowing there is always a lesson and purpose even in the challenges. This has allowed me to be okay with the natural ebbs and flows of life.
2. Releasing timelines + expectations: SO much of our disappointment and desire for control come from preconceived notions, expectations and timelines we've set out for ourselves in an attempt to control outcomes. There is usually a bigger power at work on our behalf, so each day it's important to notice where you're projecting your expectations, holding onto a timeline and taking yourself out of the present moment. Experiment with letting that go focus on what is going well. See if anything changes.
3. Determine what you can and can't control: In any given situation there are things you CAN control and a lot that you can't. You can always control how you respond to situations, the thoughts that swirl in your mind and ultimately how you move through your day. That's it! You can't control what others are thinking, how they will behave or what external situations come your way, so by focusing on you and what you can control for yourself, you ultimately surrender the rest.
4. Make no plans: Full surrender might not work for you all the time especially because as humans we thrive on structure and boundaries. One way to bring surrender into your life slowly is to block off 1 afternoon, or evening a week where you make no plans and have no agenda. Dedicate this time solely to yourself and ask 'what do I want to do, and what does my body need', and see what comes up. Surrender to what you need or desire in that moment and play around with what happens. Maybe you find yourself somewhere you never expected or in a different situation than you're used to. The possibilities are endless!
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.