Your Voice: Is it loud enough?
Are you saying what you want to say or do you find yourself holding back?
With a partner? An employer? A friend?
Do you fantasize about how things 'could be' but you never actually communicate how you want them to happen?
Take a quick moment to evaluate, are things in your life going the way you want them to?
If the answer is no, that is okay. This is an opportunity to make a change.
Find a quiet space. Take out your journal (a paper and pen will do).
Now is the time to get real. What is that you are not saying? What do you wish was different? See if you can answer these questions without judgement but rather just by simply observing what comes out.
It is SO easy to get swept up in the day to day, the habit, the routine of how things are because that is how they have always been. But when you get stuck and don't speak up, you are denying yourself the true opportunity of what could be.
What does finding your voice look and feel like? It takes practice of reaching the edge of your comfort zone through these strategies.
Are you ready to be heard?
Finding your Voice
Feel your Voice: If you're going to listen to your inner truth you have to truly FEEL it. Take a mindful moment to tune into your voice. Place both hands around your throat and close your eyes. Say three things that you are grateful for, feeling the vibration of your words. Tune in and ask yourself, 'what is important to say today'? 'what can you say and to whom that will leave you feeling happy?' Observe what comes up and practice every day to develop a relationship with you truly want to say.
Get your vocal cords pumping: One of the best ways to practice saying what you mean is my belting out your favorite song. You can do it in the shower, the car, with music or without. Practice what it feels like to let loose and really experience how powerful your vocal cords are.
Observe your urges: Are there times where you are having a conversation but are not actually saying what you want to say? Notice them and write them down. Then write down how the scenario could have played out with you actually saying how you really felt. Painting the picture of how the situation could be allows you to get closer to the truth and re-approach the convo with a clearer direction.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.