Last week we talked all about new beginnings and how to make the most out of a fresh start and learn how to embrace new situations. If you missed it, check it out here. This week we're taking it one step further and unpacking the sometimes dreaded word, CHANGE.
Change is something that we all seem to resist yet it is the only thing CONSTANT in our lives. The ability to change your situation, your luck, your relationship etc takes massive guts and is hard. Remember when we were young and change happened daily in the form of a new tooth, an inch of height or fresh hormones (ugh, I don't miss those!). We didn't resist it, we simply understood that it was the way of life and accepted it or welcomed it.
Growing up in Canada, I never liked the cold. My parents took me to Vermont to ski every weekend and although I became a great skiier, I did not like putting on a skisuit and spending the whole day freezing my a$$ off! The hot chocolate at the end of the day was always the part I looked forward to the most. So from an early age I decided I wanted to move and I set my sites on California.
This dream from its first inception to becoming a reality took over 10 years to manifest! The lesson here is that you can't put a timeline on the things you want to change, you just have to keep working at them and trust that they will happen.
Over the years I've learned to make friends with change and to actually like it, even when it's throwing me a curve ball I didn't expect or sending me a change that makes me uncomfortable or sad. I know that life is better with an influx of change and I'm a better person for learning to love it.
Want to feel the same? Embrace these tips and watch the changes unfold.
Tips for Change
1: Nothing changes if nothing changes: The biggest thing that is halting change in your life is as simple as not making the changes. If you want to learn a new skill but never take a class or try the activity - nothing will change. If you want to change your habit of pressing snooze every morning but never make any changes like going to bed earlier or putting your alarm clock in the next room so you have to get out of bed to turn it off then nothing will change. We have more power than we think over the changes we want in our life and it all starts with baby steps and consistency.
2. Seasons of change: We are just like nature, always changing from season to season, day to day. Nothing is ever really the same and yet there is a consistency and familiarity to the sun rising each morning and setting each night. Work with the seasons in your own life by first off acknowledging that they exist and observing yourself through the days, month, years and how you DO change over time. How your body becomes stronger from working out and eating right, how your goals change, your mood changes with the seasons etc. Learn to notice the rhythms of your body so you know when they are coming and can prepare for what they bring.
3. Backwards plan: Changes take planning and the big ones don't just happen by chance. It wasn't by chance that I ended up calling California home, it took focused planning and dedication and many years to make it happen. Backwards planning has always been a great tool for me to visualize the change and break it down into smaller actions so it doesn't feel overwhelming. Think about what you want to change and think about the steps you need to take in order to make it happen.
4. Celebrate change: Chances are you've experience BIG changes and SMALL changes in your life. It's SO important to take the time to celebrate each of those that you've experienced and created for yourself. It's ALSO great to know when it's time to stay put and enjoy what you have created. We can't always be in a state of BIG change and don't need to be. Reflect upon what season of change you are in right now and honor yourself for being exactly where you are supposed to be.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.