Learn how to say what you mean and mean what say
Last week I hosted a workshop at the coworker space The Riveter talking all about Conscious Communication and what that really means.
We talked about what the best way is to connect with others, get your point across and really feel seen and heard in both personal and professional settings. I know I have fallen victim to misinterpretation…
Communication is not a one size fits all approach because people listen and receive information in different ways.
Conscious communication starts with the assumption that everyone deserves to be treated respectfully. This doesn’t mean that everything has to be agreed upon but recognizes that everyone has a certain set of experiences that influence how they see the world.
Instead of pitting ourselves against one another, we approach conversations with a sincere desire to understand.
When we set aside our agenda of trying to change everyone and approach communication with a curious mind and open heart, the world opens up for us.
How to embody Conscious Communication
Step 1: Find Common Ground
Focus on the things that you have in common. When you notice these things, your attention is on what you share, rather than what divides you. From this place you have a better chance of understanding their perspective on issues where you disagree.
Step 2: Manage your Emotions
Learn to manage your emotional reactivity by:
Taking 3 deep breaths
Going outside for a walk
Scheduling a meeting for a later date so that you have time to process the situation and come back to a level head in lieu of reactivity
Step 3: Accept what is
Things are not always going to go exactly how you want them to. Once we accept things as they are, we become more effective in responding to a person or situation because we are no longer feeling captive to our emotions.
Step 4: Stick with it
Relationships happen when you show up, sincerely, time and time again. Give yourself whatever time you need between conversations, and look for other ways to maintain a connection. In this way you build mutual respect that can be the foundation for a genuine and productive conversation about a shared future.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.