When you look at your life and the world, what do you see? Do you see beauty in unexpected places? Or do you see chaos and dark clouds in broad daylight?
A few weeks ago we talked all about choice and having the power to hone your thoughts for the better. Today, we are practicing what we preach and taking the same idea of choice and seeing it through the lens of perception. If you missed the choice chat you can catch up here.
You consume a myriad of information all day long. It's up to you to choose how to perceive it. The difference between an adventure and an ordeal is in how you look at the situation. If you're on a road trip and you get lost along the way you can perceive it as a blessing because it led you down a beautiful road or to a cute town you wouldn't have discovered. It can also be seen as a waste of time and trigger frustration and negativity.
Or at work one day a client reaches out to reschedule a meeting you spent days preparing for. One perspective could be to indulge in frustration and be irritated that it rocked your carefully curated timeline OR choose to see it through a difference lens and understands it just wasn't meant to be that day and use that time to work on something else.
When we shift the lens of what we see things through, everything around us shifts as well.
Want to give it a try? Here's how.
*Disclaimer: If you are dealing with any sort of mental health issue, we understand that the above may not apply to you and completely respect your condition.
1. Wait: When a situation arises, instead of jumping to a reaction, analyze what is happening and wait to respond. When we respond from a calm mind and a relaxed body, it's often easier to see a different perspective than if we are riled up and stressed out.
2. Details or Big Picture: Have you ever been asked if you were watching a train pass in front of you, would you focus on the car in your sight line or would you see the whole train as it moves by? This can help determine if you're a detail oriented or big picture person. Once you figure out which one you are most of the time, challenge yourself to flip your natural way of being to explore another perspective. This will give you an opportunity to either widen or narrow your view.
3. Reframing: Thinking about how you want to feel after a presentation at work, during a stressful part of your day, or while weathering an unforeseen communication storm between friends or family... take a minute to think about how you want to feel and ask yourself what you need to think in order to feel that way. Right there you've reframed the situation and you can continue along the path of feeling the way you want to.
4. Make a change: Physically change what you're looking at! Maybe you need to see it from a different angle, maybe through a different pair of metaphorical glasses or in a different space all together. Taking a (short or long) trip is a great way of doing that. Changing things up will help you see a solution you wouldn't have otherwise seen - think of a Rubik's cube!
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.