Let’s be real, at one point we’ve all made a messy mistake. Whether it’s missing a deadline, forgetting an important call — or something entirely different— it can be hard to swallow your pride and admit you’re in the wrong.
What if instead of punishing yourself, replaying the situation like a broken record in your head or doing/saying something you might regret - you used this as an opportunity for growth and and occasion to make the situation better for everyone involved?
Humility not only releases you from the negative thought pattern, it also connects you deeper to the person or people who were on the receiving end of the error. When you can admit that you are not perfect (newsflash - no in is) it allows for a level of vulnerability in a relationship that otherwise may have not been there.
The resistance behind the ability to forgive yourself, apologize, and move on is really just our ego — and often the more it gets in the way, the more we separate ourselves from other people.
So whether it’s in business, your relationship with yourself, or your loved ones, here are my top tips to help you swallow your pride, apologize, and move on.
1. Watch for signs of ego
We love the feeling of being right. But what does being right really do for you? It creates more separation between you and the person who is wrong. Instead, see if you could put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see their perspective. At a foundational level we all want to be seen and loved, so remember that when looking for a resolution.
Meditating allows you to quiet all of the noise. When in a challenging situation there are 3 levels, what happened, your emotions as well as what is at stake for you. Getting quiet allows you to access your intuition and see yourself more clearly. From this place you can be guided towards a clearer action plan.
3. Let go of the BS
Let go of the feelings and thoughts that are weighing you down. That includes resentment, taking things personally, and being harsh with yourself. Remind yourself that when you swallow your pride, you can make more space in your life for positive emotions to take over.
Samara Zelniker is a yogi, wine drinker, pet lover and travel junkie.